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Couples Counseling and Marriage Counseling

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Is Your Marriage in Danger? Considering Couples Counseling? 

Are you fighting with your romantic partner in repetitive ways? Does it seem like conflicts never get resolved? Have you or your partner had an affair, and you’re trying to figure out if your marriage or relationship can endure? Are you both still stuck on issues from the past that keep coming up over and over again? Is the stress from your relationship making it hard to focus on relationship-issuesschool, work, or other areas of your life?  Does your partner seem constantly irritated with you, or complain you’re distant, shut down, or needy? Are you on the brink of divorce but willing to give your marriage one last try? Couples counseling could help.

All Relationships Have Challenges 

Let’s face it, relationships are hard, even for people who really care about their partners and family members. We’ve all said the wrong thing at the wrong time. Other times we don’t know what to say at all. No matter what we try, we can feel stuck in conflict, giving up our needs and wants. Our efforts to improve our relationships can backfire, even when we mean well. Marriages can end up feeling lonely, hopeless, or detached.

The good news is couples counseling and marriage counseling can be effective for these problems. There are habits, patterns, and dynamics that create relationship problems, and they can be changed using the latest counseling theories. While you may have made mistakes in your past, there are ways you can move forward to restore your relationships, and maybe even take them to new levels you have never experienced before.

 

Couples Counseling and Marriage Counseling Can Lead To Long Lasting Change 

couples counseling 2I’ve always been fascinated with why some people are successful at relationships while others are not. The good news is that there is a lot of valuable information based on research available today on this exact question. Here’s a couple of my favorite theories:

Relationship Habits

Some research suggests the success of our relationships has a lot to do with our individual habits, such as how we react to conflict, stress, and differences with our partners or families. Some people were lucky enough to have absorbed good relationship habits from our families of origin and react skillfully when we’re having problems in our relationships.

However, if you’re like most of us, you didn’t have the best examples set for you. You probably saw people having lousy relationships. Why would you know how to respond appropriately if you haven’t seen what works?

Worse, this same research suggests that poor relationship skills actually lead to changes in our brain! We can be conditioned to be reactive, angry, afraid, etc, which needless to say aren’t the best thing for our relationships.

Fortunately, you can learn effective relationship skills. Human beings have a tremendous capacity to grow and change with a little incentive and direction. One of the clearest findings in neuroscience over the last few decades is that the brain is actually capable of rewiring itself into more adaptive patterns. With training, people can learn effective relationship skills until they become automatic, natural responses with their partners. Identifying effective and ineffective skills, learning ways to change and finally being to implement them automatically can happen with coaching and practice.

Emotional Bonds

Another popular approach to couples counseling places the emphasis on the emotional bond between couples.  Where there is a solid emotional connection, relationships flourish.  In therapy, we call this the “attachment” model because it is similar to the relationship mothers and other primary caregivers have with their children. There is a sense of safety, security, understanding, and of course love.

Many times, a relationship is in jeopardy because a vicious cycle of interaction has jeopardized this critical bond. We can fall into roles of criticism or withdrawal that further fray the connection.

In this kind of therapy, the emphasis is on helping people understand their own underlying emotions about the relationship and conveying them to their partner in a way that their partner can receive them.  This has a beautiful effect when it happens!

 

Ready to Try Marriage Counseling or Couples Counseling? 

If you been struggling with your relationship, I would be honored to bring my expertise to your marriage or partnership. You can contact me using the pop-up form below to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. Or you can call me at my confidential business number (303) 748-4730.

I look forward to speaking with you about your concerns and am happy to answer any additional questions about how I might help you!

-Robin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Is Your Marriage in Danger?

Are you fighting with your romantic partner in repetitive ways? Does it seem like conflicts never get resolved? Have you or your partner had an affair, and you’re trying to figure out if your marriage or relationship can endure? Are you both still stuck on issues from the past that keep coming up over and over again? Is the stress from your relationship making it hard to focus on school, work, or other areas of your life?  Does your partner seem constantly irritated with you, or complain you’re distant, shut down, or needy?  Are you on the brink of divorce or are have already separated, perhaps thinking it’s too late to save your relationship?

 

 

 

Couples Counseling and Marriage Counseling Can Lead To Long Lasting Change 

 I’ve always been fascinated with why some people are successful at relationships while others are not. The good news is that there is a lot of valuable information based on research available today on this exact question. Here’s a couple of my favorite theories:

Relationship Habits

Contemporary research on relationships suggests that the reasons relationships are successful has a lot to do with our individual habits, such as how we react to conflict, stress, and differences with our partners or families. Some people were lucky enough to have absorbed good relationship habits from our families of origin and react skillfully when we’re having problems in our relationships.

However, if you’re like most of us, you didn’t have the best examples set for you. In fact, you probably saw people trying all kinds of ineffective strategies to improve the relationships that may have ultimately backfired. Why would you know how to respond appropriately if you haven’t seen what works?

Fortunately, you can learn effective relationship skills. Human beings have a tremendous capacity to grow and change with a little incentive and direction. One of the clearest findings in neuroscience over the last few decades is that the brain is actually capable of rewiring itself into more adaptive patterns. With training, people can learn effective relationship skills until they become automatic, natural responses with their partners.

Emotional Bonds

Another popular approach to couples counseling places the emphasis on the emotional bond between couples.  Where there is a solid emotional connection, relationships flourish.  In therapy, we call this the Error! Hyperlink reference not valid.model because it is similar to the relationship mothers and other primary caregivers have with their children.  There is a sense of safety, security, understanding, and of course love.

Many times a relationship is in jeopardy because a vicious cycle of interaction has jeopardized this critical bond. We can fall into roles of criticism or withdrawal that further fray the connection.

In this kind of therapy, the emphasis is on helping people understand their own underlying emotions about the relationship and conveying them to their partner in a way that their partner can receive them.  This has a beautiful effect when it is done properly.

 

Ready to Try Marriage Counseling or Couples Counseling? 

If you been struggling with your relationship, I would be honored to bring my expertise to your marriage or partnership. You can contact me using the pop-up form below to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. Or you can call me at my confidential business number (303) 748-4730.

I look forward to speaking with you about your concerns and am happy to answer any additional questions about how I might help you!

-Robin

 

 

 

 

 

 

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